If your partner identifies with these the textbook characteristics of sociopaths then you’ll gain insight on why you’re having so many relationship problems:
1. They are very charming at first. They literally sweep you off your feet! They express their life problems and win your sympathy and devotion. This is how they start to suck you in. They may at times tell you how misunderstood they are by the people around them.
2. They make you feel special, validated, and needed. At this point, you’d do anything to help them, even if it’s outside of your comfort zone. They’re very self-centered. It’s all about their needs and wants. You give and give and they take and take.
3. Now that they’ve reeled you in they start to display their true personality. The need to please them starts to erode your self-esteem and leave you in a very needy, fragile and desperate place. The more supportive you are the worse they treat you. You want to help them and "fix" things to make everything right but you’re never able to. You start to think it has to be you. You must be the root of the problem.
Does this all sound familiar? If your answer is "yes" then your significant other might be a sociopath. This personality disorder cannot be fixed. If you were a perfectly healthy, well-adjusted person before, then you know in your heart that you deserve to love and be loved in return.
Respect yourself. Let go. This will be hard at first but well worth it. Suffice it to say this relationship was a true learning experience. Now you know exactly what you’re not looking for in your next relationship! Need help letting go? Give me a call. Together we will make that happen.
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Kgirl418: This is so true. I was in a relationship with a sociopath. My intuition kept nudging me to move on. It took 7 years but now that I'm on the other side I can see what a dangerous place I was in. I am so thankful for that experience because it lead me to my new relationship and I'm in a much better place now since I have lived the signs from the article. My advice to anyone who might find themselves in what they think may be a relationship with a sociopath is get out! They truly can't change. Learn your lesson then just go! To be sure, they will be off to the next victim to ruin.