Unfortunately, after many years together, small insults and fights can build up to the point that a relationship dissolves into anger and bitterness. If you're dealing with a bitter partner but you still want them in your life, the following tips can help you learn how to deal with them and their bitterness.
Forgiving your partner for his or her bitterness doesn't mean you condone it. It simply means that you're ready to move on from the pain. If you're having trouble with forgiveness, you can write in a journal or turn to friend, loved one, or psychic advisor for help. Sometimes, doing this will help you let go of the grudges and hurt feelings. Also, remember that forgiveness is a constant process that you need to work on, and that the same hurts may need forgiven again in the future.
Don't Try to Change Them
Even after you've forgiven them, you may feel like your partner needs to change. However, getting other people to change their behavior is nearly impossible. By forgiving them and letting go of the grudge you feel towards their bitterness, you will gain calmness and acceptance in your own life. When you forgive your partner you're bringing yourself peace and taking the power to hurt you away from the other person.
Find Out What Is Causing the Bitterness
Oftentimes, bitterness comes from lost dreams or broken expectations. While some people will accept that these dreams were never meant to be, others will start to blame different people in their lives for their past failures. This causes their bitterness to grow.
If this is the case with your partner, both of you need to sit down and have an open and honest talk about these issues. If your partner is having problems figuring out what's causing the bitterness, an online psychic reading may help. Then, you can both look at the lesson learned and have a plan for how to deal with the same issues in the future.
Consider Their Point of View
If your partner strikes out, try to consider why he or she behaves in such a way. Then practice some empathy towards them. If you've argued, sit down to talk about the problems and acknowledge that you understand how your partner feels.
Focus on What You Can Control
In the end, you must accept that you have no control over bitter people or how they feel. You can't control the past or what happened then, but you can control how you react to those feelings today. You also have control over how long you feel hurt. Similarly, you can accept that your partner is doing the best he or she can and that it might simply take time for him or her to work through the feelings of bitterness.
While dealing with a bitter partner is difficult, if you still want that person in your life, consider this advice. Then, both of you can work towards the path of forgiveness and acceptance.