The Mindful Path EP12: Healing False Hope - How to Say Goodbye to an Ex

You may have had the hope that something was going to happen, but it never did. This is called false hope. Blaming yourself for believing in something that was never going to happen or blaming the person for not doing what you thought they would or even blaming the person who told you it was going to happen, can all be healed.

This meditation will walk you through some steps to help you let go of what you hoped and move into acceptance for what is, plus forgive all those involved. That way, you can continue on from a place of wholeness and live your best life.

Abundant blessings for your 2022. I'm Halo with a guided meditation for all of you today. And this one is on healing false hope. False hope is when we are told or believe something that actually doesn't happen. We will specifically focus on healing this in regards to love and exes. 

When you are ready, allow your breath to easily and effortlessly enter and exit your lungs at the pace that feels right for you. In and out. Enter and exit. Good.

Intend to relax and intend to be calm. At your own pace, bring up an image of the fantasy, the vision you had for the future. This is what you hoped would happen. Notice any sensations; any emotions. And then you're going to visualize this image being full of golden light. This golden light transforms more into lava and it begins to consume the image. It melts it away. It disintegrates. This lava has a mind of its own and it does not stop until it's consumed the entire image. Just let it do so. Allow yourself to have whatever reaction. Perhaps it's fear. Perhaps it's sadness. Whatever it is, just allow it to express. You are letting go of the fantasy and uncreating it. 

And once the fantasy is no more, move into a state of making peace with the past, peace with the present, and peace with whatever is to come. You are accepting life as it is, instead of forcing or holding on to what you hoped would be.

If it helps, visualize an image that represents peace to you or even a color. And let that image be in your space; let that color surround you so that you can be even more peaceful and in a state of even more acceptance. Acceptance likes to acknowledge what is. Acknowledge that there is love and accept that it's OK to still love them. And intend to love yourself even more. Perhaps you need more time to grieve the loss of this fantasy. And if so, that is OK. Make space in your life to mourn and grieve. And also, recognize that you will love someone else this much and even more, again.

You might not know what it looks like and feels like to move on but you can visualize your best self doing so. Go ahead and visualize an empowered you. A you that is fully loved and accepted by you. And ask this representation of your best self the following questions.

• If I knew someone better was right around the corner, would I still be this upset or still be holding on to this ex?
• What are the underlining reasons or issues that keep me holding on?
• Do I really want this person or am I afraid of something else? Such as being alone or not fitting in?

And lastly, ask this empowered you what advice it can give you to help you heal any lingering false hope. And then intend to take that advice and apply it to your life. 

We will close out this meditation with any forgiveness that is needed or wanted for you for believing something that was never going to happen. And maybe even forgiveness for someone who told you something that didn't or wasn't going to happen. Let that forgiveness wash over you. Let it cycle throughout your mind and being. Excellent. Let the rhythm of forgiveness and love match the rhyme of your heartbeat as you continue on in your life. I wish you the best as you continue in this amazing life that you've created. Ase