PathForward welcomes you to tune out the noises of the day and tune in to our tranquil guided mediation series, The Mindful Path. Breathe in, breathe out and let’s begin.
You've probably heard people say pick your battles when it comes to relationships. The same is true for you. Choose what’s worthy of arguing with yourself, and what’s not. We are meant to be creatures of habit. So, you might be on autopilot, beating yourself up over insignificant things. Over things that don’t even matter, things that haven’t even happened, things that happened a long time ago.
This meditation is on picking your battles with yourself and learning how to accept yourself as you are through visualizing. The picture frame technique was taught to me in 2009 by my mentor. I have used it to manage my reaction to things for many years. I'm passing it on to you so that you are able to direct energy in ways that better your life and emotional state.
This guided meditation is on picking your battles with yourself and learning how to accept yourself as you are. And the best way I find to do this is through this simple visualization.
Whatever the situation was, is, or that you fear will be: bring it up as a still image in a golden frame. See the energy draining out of the image, and it becoming grey, or black and white. And it can be animated first and then as you intend to drain it of its energy and power, it becomes still.
And then see the energy from this golden frame seeping into the image. This golden light is the energy of pure love, radical acceptance, self-forgiveness, gratitude and wisdom. Notice as each object, person is affected by this energy and simply bask in the beauty of it. There is no right, there is no wrong, just the power of this life force energy rippling through the image.
And then, push the image further away from your body. I would say all across the room, or all away in the sky so that you have distance from the issue. And from this distance you get to frame the issue in a different way. Think about what you’ve been arguing with yourself about in this mental, and emotional state. View the picture, turn it upside down, break it apart and put it back together, just so that your context is refined. The context in which you are viewing this issue is transmuted so you can truly gauge what it is, and what you want to do about it. And sometimes there is nothing to do about it, you're simply meant to let it go.
Sometimes acceptance is sitting on your hands, which is to say: you surrender, you don’t try to change something, you simply accept it as it is. Some people feel disempowered by inaction, but really the ability to sit and think is one of the most powerful things that you can do. Patience is discipline, it’s the ability to conserve your energy so that you put your energy towards what will do the most good in your life.
Think of great cats of Africa. The Lions and how they lounge all the time, sometimes all day. And yet they are the most powerful and revered creatures of the safari. They conserve their energy, do the same for yourself. You can visualize yourself lounging, you can visualize one of the great cats. Whatever image does the best and most powerful representation for you, is the one you should use. Do this as often as you need -sometimes multiple times in a day- until it becomes your autopilot. And that is where the blessing is.
I'll leave you with these parting words; always know that you are the most powerful force and presence in your life. So, treat yourself the way you want to be treated.