Why do we, as individuals, put these contracts into place?
A good indicator that you may be in an energetic and spiritual contract with another person is when you feel a deep connection with the person. Or you may feel very strongly about your connection with the person and you have an inner knowing that you’re together to fulfill something.
I often get questions from clients about why they may be “hanging in there” in a relationship with another person when the other person continues to pull away. For example, maybe a significant other has told you that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship you still have feelings for the man and can’t seem to move on. And on top of all this, hanging in there is totally against your usual way of handling things when someone has turned his back on you.
So, you start questioning yourself by wondering if you’re weak or needy and all kinds of other negative emotions and feelings about yourself because you’re in a holding pattern waiting for the other person to return. You’re wondering, “Where have my wisdom and self-worth gone?”
The indicator that there’s a spiritual contract in place is when you realize that doing all of the above totally goes against your better judgment.
What does this mean for you and the situation?
There will come a time when the other person will actually return or you’ll feel the freedom to move on. You can give the other person a chance but you’re not obligated to continue on this pattern forever. By allowing the person to own up to the contract, you’re actually fulfilling your agreement and you can either move on or be together.
If you have to move on you’ll have an inner knowing that you gave the other person all you could and that happiness awaits you with another person.
Mostly, you will have learned and experienced from the situation and be rewarded for your efforts.